Unfortunately the lady I was with for the 4 1/2 years right after I got divorced let it be known that I was not going to have any kind of ongoing relationship with my ex.
I have since learned how to respond to unreasonable demands like that:
With a big hearty, "fuck off."
After that relationship ended I got back in touch with my ex. She lives in Texas and I, in New Jersey. We have not seen each other since she left in August of '89 but have kept in touch and stayed friends ever since.
One day she was looking thru this here web site and commented that she was not mentioned anywhere. I said that if she provided some content I would publish it as-is. Here it is, as promised.
Hi, I happen to be Steve's only ex-wife. Probably not the love of his life but still significant in terms that we actually got married.
Steve and I met when I was 19 and he was 29. He was the star of the town we lived in. Being the #1 morning disk jockey attracted a lot of attention his way, plus he was just so darn charming and shy. He was in love (lust) with my roommate at the time we met. Immediately, I was attracted to him and set out on hot pursuit to get this man. After a year of dating, we were married. After 2 years of marriage we were separated. We are two very different people. Steve is stable, sensitive, and so shy. He tries real hard to act like he is not shy, but believe me, he is incredibly soft hearted and sweet. I am not.
Steve and I had some great times and I cherish those memories. If I was more sensitive and mature, and liked being treated gingerly and softly, we would still be together. But now I am lucky and happy to have a wonderful friend forever.
I'm married again for 10 years now and have 3 kids. Steve and I communicate on the average of 2-3 times a year. I miss him.
I did promise to post it as she wrote it, which I have done. One comment, I am much better with the shyness thing. Heck I can even ask a girl out with out turning into a quivering bowl of jello, cool huh?
This page once had a couple of pictures of her. A while ago she asked me to remove them. then she vanished from the face of the Earth. Email bounced, phones disconnected. So I tried an actual letter, wondering if she was OK. Seems that she was getting married and because she loved her fiance she could no longer be my friend. I was also going to get annulment papers.
That was years ago.